Friends and Fighting

I'm proud of myself.  I got into a pretty major disagreement with a friend about the recent SCOTUS ruling on gay marriage.  It was a very short disagreement but a forceful one.  I told my friend I was very happy for the ruling because I didn't think it was right that gay couples didn't get the same privileges that heterosexual couples do.  My cousin is a lesbian and I am very happy that she can now be married and have that marriage recognized in all 50 states.

Also, my job at the adoption company is to help mostly the LGBT community navigate their way through the adoption process.   There is such joy when I talk to my clients about this ruling.  You see, there isn't only discrimination through marriage, but also through adoption.  In many states only one of a couple can adopt and if they are lucky the partner could adopt 6 months later.   Imagine for 6 months or longer NOT having legal rights to your child! 

Anyhow, my friend was rather upset that I thought it was good.  I said that it isn't right to be treated that way when they have no choice.  She yelled back at me "You aren't born gay!"  and the only "proof" she had was that if it was okay, the bible would not speak against it.  It made me mad.  I am a woman of faith, but I can't stand when people stay ignorant because "the bible says".   The bible says that slavery is okay.  The bible says if you have sex during your menstrual period you should be cut off from your people and you are unclean,  The bible says a lot of things that have been written off as cultural times.  But not homosexuality.  Noone bothers to get to know gay people, to read the studies, to understand.  It's just different than what they know.

I'm not opposed to people believing one way.  But you need more proof to back up what you believe.

Anyhow..back to why I was proud.  Even in this stressful time, I did not binge.  I did not want to give in to the stress.  And honestly, if I lost this friend over it, I wouldn't be too sad.  I'm a thinker and I love debate, but bring some education about what you are debating. 

I had a doctors appointment today.  I look forward to getting my labs back.  I don't like giving blood, but I do like finding out the results and comparing them from before.  I hadn't been to the doctor for over 2 years because in my depression I just felt so embarrassed going back and having gained so much weight.   It was fine though. 

What I've been doing...

This is what I've been doing for the past 2 1/2 years, besides gaining weight!  She's a beautiful, blond mini-me.  She is just like her momma in so many ways. 

I have friends in town this weekend that kind of stress me out a bit, but I've been handling things pretty well.  No major binges or anything.  We had chinese for dinner which is not the healthiest, but I think I did all right with it.

I'm very happy about the SCOTUS ruling this week.  I don't think people should be denied rights to marry who they love.  I work at an adoption company that primary works with the LGBT community and I tell you, those folks are beyond happy to be allowed to legally complete their family!

All in all, things are well.

I forgot about the Agony...

The agony of not seeing the scale move for days even though you are doing everything right!

Before I started down this path again, I invested in a doctors scale.  I was so tired of stepping on a digital scale and having it read 6 different weights in the span of 1 minute.  I love my scale.  Even when it doesn't move.

The reality is I've had a cold and I got my period which are the two things that mostly make me retain water.   So I shouldn't be so annoyed at the scale, yet there it is! 

Week 1 -  I lost 7 lbs
Week 2 - I lost 2 lbs
Week 3 - I lost 4.5 lbs
Week 4 - I lost 1 lb

So in 4 weeks I have lost 14.5 lbs, which is nothing to sneeze at.   I know now it starts to go slower, but I've been down this road before.  I just have to revist my blog from 2011 when I started to be real serious about my health. 

I've had 30 days without Diet Coke, which I am telling you is essential to this process.  The first thing I did before I came undone was have a Diet Coke, and then another.  Without Diet Coke, I have no cravings for sweet things.  I'd rather have a fruit or a vegetable than a cookie.  Truth. 

Here's to the next 4 weeks!

The Road is Long with Many a Winding Turn...

I can't believe I've been blogging on and off for the last 6 years!  My twins were 4 when I started blogging and they are now 10.  I now have a 2 1/2 year old beautiful and precocious toddler.  I gained all those glorious 100 lbs I lost back after I gave birth and lost my father to liver cancer at the age of 66.  It's a long road.

I have had 28 pretty darn great days.  No diet coke...only a couple of cases of small binging.  I'm down 14.4 lbs in almost a month, which is pretty consistent with what I lost the first time around.  This is the first time in nearly 3 years that I have had a pretty clean month.

I'm working full time so I haven't quite figured out how to work the fitness center back into my life, but for me it was more the food that was the problem. 

My readers have probably long forgotten about me but I still want to move forward on this blog.  I'm going back to being less than a baby elephant again.  But I did it once, so I know it can be done!

If you are still reading me, leave me a comment!  I'm planning to get caught up with reading blogs soon!